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Being safe... 11/16/2007
Don't give them your address & landline phone
number.
Do meet first in a pub;ic place. Do arrange a 'safe call'
with a friend for a certain time.
Don't always listen to gossip. Some is malicious,
more inaccurate.
Do get his full real name, dob & address & phone
number.
Trust your own instincts.
Remember we are all human...
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16 Votes
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Checking the Bag 11/16/2007
Even after having met a new LOVER or prospective MASTER,
I find myself checking at least initially his bag or luggage
containing the Toys of his Trade. I had a few nasty surprises
a few years back that were sprung onto me during several
extended play session, and which could have been avoided.
It’s simply a bit awkward to be bound and secured and then
being prodded with a nasty and ...
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110 Votes
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Beware of the clingy woman........ 8/4/2007
Hello everyone. What's up? I love ladies in every way, but
ther is one that can be a nightmare. She's the recently
seperated female that know's only how to be in a relationship.
They can be the best and the crazyest bitch in the world.
So my advice is to just leave everything sexual.....Good
luck...
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168 Views,
9 Votes
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How To Be An Effective SafeCaller 7/27/2007
Dangerous people, dangerous situations. How do we ensure
our safety when we meet for the first time? How do we know
the person won’t become the abuser down the line?
<br>
These are the most important issues for anyone meeting
anyone, anywhere.
<br>
When a woman goes to a BDSM society meeting, she is meeting
people in a public place. Going out for coffee or a bite to ...
7 Comments,
580 Views,
54 Votes
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Lookover 3/10/2007
One can never be too safe when meeting people from this site.
I like to chat for an extended period of time and when it comes
time to swap pics then I include one with a beard or in my leathers
from being on the road. I promise after a shave and the jacket
and chaps come off I look totally different. I may also set
up a drink or coffee date and include my clothing description.
I dress ...
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Hard Limits 1/8/2007
One of the things I have found interesting is that when most
list hard limits they fail to list the most important one
of all. Of course, I am sure that many feel that everyone
knows that it is a limit but as was drilled into me since I
was a : When we assume..we make an ass out of u and me.
The limit I am speaking of is snuff. I find it almost amusing
that so many take the time to put ...
3 Comments,
543 Views,
9 Votes
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what kind of tips should guys follow? 11/3/2006
normally, the tips are targeted to woman, should men follow
similar things, something different, or just go with the
flow?
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6 Votes
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Protection against crazy ex-gf's 10/12/2006
It seems like any jealously crazy ex-girlfriend can pick
up the phone at any time and accuse a man of domestic assault,
what have you, and send them to jail whenever they feel like
it.
As a man we seem to have no rights or protection, it's
always our word against theirs and with these no-tolerance
laws the man always get f**ked over.
What suggestions or ideas do people have to ...
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Safety 101: What Is A Safecall? 10/10/2006
In my previous article, I mentioned safecalls. A safecall
is basically a safety line to the outside world: Someone
out there knows where you are, who you are with, and what
you are doing, in order to help minimize your risk. Here
are some tips for arranging a safecall for your first date:
<br>
<br>
1. Get all the information that you can from the person you're
meeting. ...
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29 Votes
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You Never Know 10/5/2006
Have you ever met someone and over the phone they sound NORMAL, and
everything seems to be going well??? Then you meet and find
out this person is a REAL NUT CASE??
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6 Votes
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FAT BOYS SLIM is not the question when you know the art of trust 8/17/2006
Fat boys or slim?
The domes learn submissive partners for their best.
Unfortunately, at alt.com many submissive boys ask domes
to guess do they fat boys or slim, ha ha
That’s for example, or other secrets,
Often they ask – Prove me that you are the real dome.
Some want to see a kind of magic abilities that the domes
must have.
The domes don’t like to be ...
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meetings 7/3/2006
how many of you arranged to meet someone and found that they
have not turned up
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6 Votes
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Mrs. Hannibal Lecter??? 6/12/2006
I've recently had an email encounter with someone
from this website who is a Dom. SHE had invited me to her network.
I'm a little frightened of this because when I checked
a profile under her AOL account it was all in some type of
code and I've seen the word "Cannibal"
in it. Just wanted to give a heads up to the fellas and ladies
here. You can't be too shore of who you will meet out ...
3 Comments,
287 Views,
36 Votes
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Safety 101: The First Date 6/5/2006
So you've been chatting to that hot new Dom/me or potential
sub online or on the phone for some time, and now it's
finally time to meet face to face! Sure, you have butterflies
in your stomach; but chances are, so does the other person.
Here's some advice to help minimize your risk, and
keep those butterflies calm.
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<br>
1. Keep it short. Half an hour to an hour ...
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58 Votes
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there isn't such a thing.. 12/15/2005
There should be one more book about dating, and it should
be call "Dating Safety For Dummies". if there
is one already then good luck with it because in my eyes there
isnt such a thing. I know what you are saying BS BS BS well
let me try to prove it to you, Ask yourself one thing, How
many times have you studied and rsearch a guy or girl and
became friends first before you went out with ...
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A CAUTIONARY "TAIL" 12/8/2005

Dolly Pants, Diary of a Sissy Slave
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At the beginning it was a subtle phenomena as simple as mom
wanting their first to be a girl and dad wanting a little
boy. The father, R.C. we’ll call him worked long hard hours
as a coalminer. Mom, we’ll call her Debra had one older sister
and three younger ones. They all thought the baby was a “living ...
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Giving out your email addy 11/4/2005
Hi,
<br>
I'm pretty new to this and I had a question about giving
out your email address. A standard member contacted me
and while I'm interested in contacting her the site
clearly warns against giving out your email address. I'm
wondering if this is for my safety or a marketing ploy for
alt.com as it would behoove them to discourage us from communicating
outside of alt.com.
...
4 Comments,
397 Views,
18 Votes
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Pre-Scene Negotiations 10/25/2005
I’ve been giving this list to my fem sub acquaintances and,
over the past few weeks the response I got the most was “Whoa,
thanks for telling me that! I would never have thought of
it!” So, I thought I’d post it to the general public. Some
of these are thing that you probably wouldn’t think of,
but that doesn’t make them any less important.
I’m going to talk about ...
1 Comments,
376 Views,
69 Votes
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man wanting to take me to 10/10/2005
ok, everyone, here it is: I am a 35 yr old single mom. Always
been in vanilla relationships and long to explore and learn
more. Never been fucked by a stranger. This guy on sex search
approached me. In his ad he mentioned wanting a travel companion
for a trip to mexico. well--- here is his latest letter to
me:
Message:
Morning Karie,
Thanks for getting back to me, sending ...
9 Comments,
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17 Votes
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Taking a risk for r/t activities 10/7/2005
With the ability to determine the origins of e-mails, aren't
on-line members in the lifestyle at a lower risk for harm
than their counterparts, or is the endless ambivalance
to meet justified by a noteworthy experience that has tainted
your trust. How many use a safe call, or bring along someone
else when meeting a potential suitor.
2 Comments,
243 Views,
5 Votes
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Confirm ID 10/1/2005
Why is it that the majority of people on here don't have
a "Confirm ID"? Get an ID, people. It instills
a greater form of trust on both sides. I, personally, don't
take any replies I get seriously unless they have a "Confirm
ID". Are these people hiding something, or are they
just playing with the serious ones on here? Master Gene
4 Comments,
320 Views,
17 Votes
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Is the world that scary? 8/22/2005
How many people are afraid of those they talk to on here?
I know the world is dangers and blah blah. Trust me, I'm
aware; I've lived just outside Detroit my whole life.
That doesn't make me afraid of meeting people. How
much distance would you keep and for how long?
2 Comments,
170 Views,
2 Votes
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Always Think About Safety 8/5/2005
Here are my guidelines for initial meetings.
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1. Meet at a public place (coffee shoppe, resturant, ...).
Try to avoid bars and any place that might add additional
stress to the situation.
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2. If you have never been there before, make a trial run.
Know what to expect when you walk in.
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3. Bring a friend if you are not completely comfortable. ...
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Lesson Learned the Hard way 8/5/2005
THIS IS ALL TRUE
I met this subie on line and we chatted and found mutual intrest.
After a week of chatting she said lets meet. Well ok I figured
this would be a short and interesting date and we would chat
some more. Well after two or so hours she said lets go to her
place and play. I never did this befor but heard others did
and figured should be safe(BAD MOVE#1).
She asked if I would ...
1 Comments,
733 Views,
15 Votes
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Assault 7/17/2005
Mistresses, Doms, submissives all have to worry about
the safty issue. I met a so called switch in 2004. He was charming
in the beginning but as the relationship progressed flags
started to rise.
He claimed he was divorced but would rant and rave about
his X wife, he was extremely anal about everything. Everything
had to lined up. Even his female attire had to be just so.
After about ...
9 Comments,
2015 Views,
145 Votes
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What do you think 4/13/2005
I have just been contacted by someone on this site who viewed
my profile which is fairly specific. The persons profile
states that he is a 66yo white dom although there is no photo.
after exchanging a few emails I gave him my phone number.
The upshot of this phone call is that he is 60yo lives just
over the road from the train station I have to get to and has
a middle eastern accent and ...
1 Comments,
496 Views,
4 Votes
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Red Flags for a First Meet 1/25/2005
The name has been taken out to protect the person I am talking
about but here is the Scenario:
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Met here, e-mail sent to me, replied to and so on and so forth,
agreed to chat on another service, for realtime conversation
instant messaging. Now this person didn't like the
fact that I don't write novels as e-mails, which is
fine, but then, once in Imz...Hmmmm We chatted a few ...
2 Comments,
871 Views,
83 Votes
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youngman/olderwoman 1/24/2005
I am a youngman and I am interested to date older women. Call
it a fetish, but I really think that older women has a lot
to offer compare to younger women. Here's a few : 1.
OLDER WOMEN MORE CONFIDENT - THEY KNOW WHAT THEY WANT, WHETHER
IT'S SEX OR COMPANIONSHIP.
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2. OLDER WOMEN ARE FINANCIALLY STABLE - THEY DON'T
DEPEND ON A MAN TO PAY FOR THEM, THAT MEANS ...
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12 Votes
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Don't do what I did 1/12/2005
I went to meet Wymondhamguy, andthought Ok we'll
be Ok in private, although he was older looking than his
photo, he was OK.
<br>
When we got private we did some light things, a bit of this
and that, but I had said 'condoms' I had said no
intercouse. ( unless condoms)
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But what did he do, knelt in front of me and F***king slipped
his dick inside me the devious ...
5 Comments,
534 Views,
28 Votes
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Where to meet. Response 12/11/2004
When I meet a prospective partner for the first time, it
is always in a public place. Coffee houses are nice because
the athmosphere is relatively quiet and relaxed, you can
sit close and talk, get to know a person, yet it is public
enough for you to call for help if they turn out to be a little
too agressive. It's also pretty cheap (The cost of
a couple of cups of coffee) and if it is ...
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